I'd rather do 55 hours a week at a job I adored. I know this because I actually do the 40 hours a week doing something I do not enjoy, and I find it saps the life out of me and when I get home I hardly want to do anything else anyway, so those extra 15 hours a week are mostly spent doing nothing anyway.

Also that sucks about the place(s) you wanted; I'm sorry they're being asshats about the stay-at-home thing.