I find the mythology behind the holiday hard to come to grips with myself. I mean, the mythology is obviously made up, and the history is there for anyone who wants to read it, but many people I know try either to do Thanksgiving "ironically" or to resuscitate it by saying it is a "time to reflect." But if we were to reflect honestly I don't think we could be so bland about what the day is supposed to celebrate.

So I am trying not to. Celebrate, that is. I don't think it is a holiday worth reclaiming under some ecumenical ideal that we are still centuries away from achieving culturally and I don't trust irony not to reinscribe the original offense.

Still, it is hard to try to have a "normal" day. The familial crap is always its own problem and impossible to sidestep it seems. I wish that we did not have to inflict this on ourselves so regularly.

I hope you have a good day with your chosen family.