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[maevele]

 We've talked a lot.  He's finally getting that this goes way back before me, and that he has to process all his really horrible childhood shit that he has a right to be angry about but never learned how to feel before we can address anything.    And he gets that I am going to have an incredible amount of work to get over being scared and hating myself and convincing myself I deserved it, and that this is shit I can't do with him. And he's scared, and I get that, but he's accepting shit now.  I have hope for him, and for our partnership, but I'm not hanging anything on that hope, and I don't have as much of it for our relationship and I am okay with that.  

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[dancesontrains]

&hearts

[flourish]

I am so glad that you're facing this.

Also I dig that you get the difference between relationship/partnership - not all people do and I think sometimes that really fucks up child-raising relationships.

Also, hearts and full support.

[la_vie_noire]

*hugs so much* I really wish you the best. I know it can be really complex, my father is pretty much like that, with a horrible childhood and stuff.