she was cuffed to the truth

WHAT ARE JUMPING UP AND DOWN ON MY LAST NERVE.

Really, i been brewing a couple ideas here for a while, but am finally gonna vomit them out.

I do not understand people who talk about all the privileges they did not have as why they don't get white privilege. I grew up welfare poor,(actually social security poor, so i envied welare kids because they got foodstamps and school lunches) no insurance, raised by a widowed alchoholic abuse survivor mom and her mother. I was mentally different to the point where i no longer had sane privilege early on, and was one of like 4 white girls in my neighborhood, i didn't have local majority privilege, and sometimes even got fucked with for being white.


So you'd think if anyone was gonna pull some "what privilege? just because i was white doesn't mean i wasn't OPPRESSED!" BULLLSHIT IT'D BE ME. but instead, when i irst heard the term White Privilege, i was like "holy shit, there's a name for it" an recognized myself in it. Because since white priv was the only one I had, it was really obvious to me that when i was treated diferent than my classmates and neighbors, it was a white thing.

So, it makes my brain explode when people think lack of other privileges cancel out white privilege. THAT'S NOT HOW IT WORKS.

ALSO, THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO UNDERSTAND ABOUT SOMEONE ELSE'S PAIN IS THAT YOU CAN NEVER REALLY UNDERSTAND IT LIKE THEY DO.
I could type or an hour about, frex, y labor pains, or my mental episodes, but if you haven't felt them, you can't do more than relate, not understand. So it is not the job of people who have been hurt to try to ake you understand their pain. They can explain what hurt them, and you can FUCKING LISTEN, and try to relate, and accept that ven though you can not understand their pain, it is STILL REAL AS FUCK. AND EVERYONE'S EXPERIENCES OF PAIN WILL BE DIFFERENT.IT DOES NOT MINIMIZE YOUR PAINS TO ACCEPT OTHERS HAVE PAIN TOO.

And as ar as deanding others help you understand, go read, it's out there.

my god, people. stfu.

any other authors been dumbfucks in this but i didn't notice because i don't know their lj handles?

http://mtgat.livejournal.com/295681.html


via [Bad username or site: jesse the k @ livejournal.com]

It's a very effective way to silence people. Regardless of what effect it has directly on coffeeandink, others who see this drama are seeing that if they piss the wrong people off, or call the wrong people out, they are fair game for outing. This can affect people's livelyhoods and safety. Therefore, people who can't afford to have their usernames connected to their legal names, maybe because they post about queer issues and can't be out to family/work, or because they post things that could make them a target for internet crazies, like feminists and 4chan, or just that they post about social issues in a way that could hurt them with a conservative employer, all those people, will be scared silent. It's better than censorship, because you can still claim you never said they couldn't say anything, ut if they do, they know you may out them if you disagree with them.

Therefore, you are silencing the marginalized, while allowing those with certain comfortable privileges to post without a second thought, because it will not affect their life if you out them.