she was cuffed to the truth

WHAT ARE JUMPING UP AND DOWN ON MY LAST NERVE.

Really, i been brewing a couple ideas here for a while, but am finally gonna vomit them out.

I do not understand people who talk about all the privileges they did not have as why they don't get white privilege. I grew up welfare poor,(actually social security poor, so i envied welare kids because they got foodstamps and school lunches) no insurance, raised by a widowed alchoholic abuse survivor mom and her mother. I was mentally different to the point where i no longer had sane privilege early on, and was one of like 4 white girls in my neighborhood, i didn't have local majority privilege, and sometimes even got fucked with for being white.


So you'd think if anyone was gonna pull some "what privilege? just because i was white doesn't mean i wasn't OPPRESSED!" BULLLSHIT IT'D BE ME. but instead, when i irst heard the term White Privilege, i was like "holy shit, there's a name for it" an recognized myself in it. Because since white priv was the only one I had, it was really obvious to me that when i was treated diferent than my classmates and neighbors, it was a white thing.

So, it makes my brain explode when people think lack of other privileges cancel out white privilege. THAT'S NOT HOW IT WORKS.

ALSO, THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO UNDERSTAND ABOUT SOMEONE ELSE'S PAIN IS THAT YOU CAN NEVER REALLY UNDERSTAND IT LIKE THEY DO.
I could type or an hour about, frex, y labor pains, or my mental episodes, but if you haven't felt them, you can't do more than relate, not understand. So it is not the job of people who have been hurt to try to ake you understand their pain. They can explain what hurt them, and you can FUCKING LISTEN, and try to relate, and accept that ven though you can not understand their pain, it is STILL REAL AS FUCK. AND EVERYONE'S EXPERIENCES OF PAIN WILL BE DIFFERENT.IT DOES NOT MINIMIZE YOUR PAINS TO ACCEPT OTHERS HAVE PAIN TOO.

And as ar as deanding others help you understand, go read, it's out there.

my god, people. stfu.

Okay, so my neighbors are nice enough guys, who sometimes have some buddies over and wind up out on the porch smoking. So, this afternoon, I went out there with my mom while she was over, and was chatting with one of the neighbors and then one of their friends came out, and he was just chatting, friendly, whatever. He's a little older than me, so I didn't think twice about him being friendly. Then he touches my tattoo, and says, "hey, I like that" and we talked about tattoos, and I went in. I went back out after my mom left, and they're all still out there, and the same guy starts talking to me, and says how much he likes my hair. And then tells me how sexy he thinks my hair is. Mind you, my head is shaved, except for my bangs, so I don't have, like, hotchyck hair. and then says something about how he shouldn't say anymore because he knows I have a husband, at which point I thank him. and then asks how my husband likes my hair, and then re-iterates the whole sexy thing, telling me he knows I like hearing it. I'm just sitting there awkward and speechless, because I don't sit at the ready with clever comebacks when I go out on my fucking porch for a smoke, and my neighbor says, laughing, "hey, are you harassing the neighbor lady" to his friend, who looks at me. I say, "well, a little" and sorta laugh it off, and then get up and go in.

Anyhow, now I'm pissed. For one, that some fucker decided it was cool to try to pick me up on my own fucking porch, continued after I showed I wasn't interested, which to me is where it crosses into harrassment, and for two, that I didn't speak up right the fuck away, even with the old generic "EXCUSE ME? I must have heard you wrong, because it sounds like you're hitting on me, dude" I talked to Z, and he doesn't get it either, and when I asked him, as a guy, how many guys are pigs of one sort or another, he implied it was most of them.

And I have a question for any men reading this. What makes a guy think that's an okay way to behave? I know all the guys are going to say they don't act like that, but I bet at least one of your friends or acquaintances does, so seriously, wtf is up with it?