note to husband

[maevele]

Sometimes, when a friend asks me to go to the bar with her because she finally got a job? shit will happen and I may not get home when I say I would. And if shit happening includes my friend's friend getting sloppy drunk on 2 drinks and disappearing with sme guy, I may be late as shit as I stomp through alleys looking for some chick who either can't hold her tequila or got slipped something by the skeevy guy whose car we found her in. Either way, yes, it sucks I ditched you with the kids til late as hell on a work night, but I can't see what good it does to get pissed at me.

Comments

[zillah975]

I'm very glad you found your friend's friend. A lot of folks -- maybe most folks -- wouldn't have even bothered to try, so, you're a hero in my book. *hugs lots* I hope your husband gets over it soon and realizes this was one of those actually-important things.

[maevele]

Yeah, the husband settled down considerably, but was still kinda irritated, reasonably, because even before the big fucking drama, we had been at the bar longer than originally planned. but he is over it now.

I can not even imagine there are people who wouldn't have stomped around looking for someone in that circumstance. Isn't that like, part of the drinking woman's code?

I was, I will admit, pissed as hell when after I spent a chunk of time on "missing drunk woman panic mode" we found her in dudes car smoking more pot. She is a grown ass woman in her 50's, who should know that going missing from the bar as we're getting ready to leave is a big red alert. but she was plowed. Next time I go drinking with my friend, I will not be taking her other friend with.

[cereta]

Good for you for doing the right thing! I'm sorry your husband doesn't see that.

[maevele]

He calmed down and got that that part was neccesary, he was still a little cranky because even before the drama I had stayed out longer than planned.

[jesse_the_k]

maevele: getting shit done and taking care of shit for decades!

[maevele]

or at least looking out for drunk women for decades. It's kind of been a theme with me since I was a teenager to keep drunk acquaintances out of major trouble.

It has gotten me into some serious trouble, like when my teenage best friend was too drunk to run when the cops showed up, so I stuck around and got arrested too, so she wouldn't be drunk and alone at the police station.

then there's the trouble one gets into if one assumes all your friends subscribe to the same theory, and that someone will have your back if it's you who gets dangerously drunk.

[emilytheslayer.livejournal.com]

Holy shit, good on you though.

[leeoakfire.livejournal.com]

Good for sticking with the friend and finding her! Sorry you had to deal with all that, and glad your other friend found a job!

[maevele.livejournal.com]

Yeah, even if she had left with the guy willingly, which turned out to be the case, she was not in shape to be making decisions about being alone with a stranger. My combination of relief and anger when we found her in dude's car smoking weed was overwhelming. "YAY, she's not being assaulted in an alley!" "WHAT THE FUCK, she ditched us and made us worry so she could go smoke more weed without us? fuck that"