heh

[maevele]

so it turns out that one of the women who didn't much like me from the parenting board i stopped hanging out on cares enough to be following my lj and running back and posting shit from here over there in private forums to mock me. I'm flattered by how much she cares, and I just find it weird that someone would invest the time to go through my journal so much when they dislike me.

anyhow, she's mostly focusing on posts about money and my appearance/gender presentation to prove how ugly and irresponsible I am or some such, but I'm slighty concerned that my posts about mental illness are going to be her next target. I've deliberately, up til now left some of the posts about the crazy unlocked, because, shit, I'm not really about hiding my illness, but I thought should let you guys know that if you've commented on any of my open posts about the crazy, it may be fodder for the bitchymoms. I don't kno for sure if the mocking has just been of me, or of my friends comments as well, since it's being done behind closed doors. I guess I'm going to go through and lock any open MI posts, not because I want to hide those posts, but because the comments coud be sensitive and don't need to be shared there.

This is trhe part that pisses me off, because yeah, the money posts were left unlocked by accident, but most of the crazy posts were left open because I refuse to hide. but to keep her off my friends, I have to lock them.

But seriously, who doesn't have better shit to do then pull shit out of people's journals to mock them behind their back?


edit: i think i have now locked all the mental illness posts for the last 2 years. Most of the ones with comments from other crazies were already locked down.

Comments

[mystickeeper.livejournal.com]

:(

I definitely agree with your last part - who has time to sit around and think up new ways to be assholes? Especially parents! Go read your kid a book or something!

[cumaeansibyl.livejournal.com]

INTERNET: SERIOUS BUSINESS

[sparkymonster.livejournal.com]

Urgh. URGH

I'm with you on wanting to keep MI posts unlocked because fuck shame. On the other hand, when it touches on someone else's stuff (friends, loved ones, etc) I don't want to out them.

[maevele.livejournal.com]

exactly. and I assume that no one who didn't want stuff to be public wouldn't comment on my public posts, ut just in case I've ha to ock them all down.

luckily they've moved on to bashing me for borrowing money from online friends, and I know I've locked all situations where I have lent others money, so they can't fuck with my friends for being mooches or whatever.

[ethora.livejournal.com]

Is this parenting group literally called "Bitchymoms"?

But yeah, I pretty much lock all of my posts because I don't have time to deal with drama from strangers.

[maevele.livejournal.com]

no, but their motto is "where we stab you in the front" and they take pride in being the harshest and most judgemental parenting board on the net.

[dragovianknight.livejournal.com]

Wow, that bodes well for their children.

[lady-alyria.livejournal.com]

And this is why I lock EVERYTHING! Once, someone I had never even spoken to posted a picture of me in my bathing suit in his LJ so he and his friends could mock me.

[belleweather.livejournal.com]

Riiiight. Because being not-attractive really matters for the hard parts of parenting. I'll remember that the next time it's 4am and my cisgendered self is covered in poop and baby vomit, in ratty hair and PJs.

[maevele.livejournal.com]

apparently the key is that those of us who aren't conventionally feminine and attractive should know better than to post pictures. because I'm supposed to e ashamed of that too, as well as of being poor and crazy. God, I don't have enough time to sit around eing ashamed of all this shit.

[belleweather.livejournal.com]

Huh. Because not posting pictures will somehow magically obscure our non-feminine and attractive self from your kids, and thus make you into a better mother?

Sorry... I'm really hung up on how your looks are somehow related to parenting talents. Evidently, these are women who have never watched SuperNanny.

[maevele.livejournal.com]

no, my being financially irresponsie is what they're ragging on in re my parenting. the ragging on me not being pretty and being genderweird is just for fun.

[raanve]

I'm sorry this is happening. What a bunch of asshats.

[pnkrokhockeymom.livejournal.com]

Oh my god.

You know, it just demonstrates how much privilege they have, that they have the time and energy to spend dicking around ragging on other people.

I mean, wow, I wish my only worry for today was what someone I don't like is posting in their journal. Life isn't short enough for her? Maybe she could go spend that time, I dunno, playing with her kids?

Losers. You're worth ten of each. F*ck 'em.

[seaya.livejournal.com]

This is just like something awful and the Wiscon troll. Is this an adult children board rather than a parenting board?

[maevele.livejournal.com]

It is a delieraty harsh and judgemental snarky parenting board. It's much smaller scale than the SA thing, and at least on the parts of the board I can access they are not pulling my friends' comments into it as i had worried they would.

and no, I'm not flocking my posts about their bullshit. they are welcome to read me shittalking about their behavior.

[haddayr.livejournal.com]

I am very sorry to hear all of this. I find it ironic that you felt you had to lock down mental illness posts to protect your friends and this woman is parading her mental sickness (I changed the phrase because when you are DELIBERATELY mentally ill you are sick) for all to see.

Although I present as completely female in Minnesota, in New York I am often confused as a man (different gender indicators in different places). People have, as soon as they've figured out my gender, told me I am ugly. Repeatedly.

Which is funny, because I'm adorable.

At any rate, I am sorry for all of this: the gender mocking bullshit, the other-mocking bullshit. Sorry sorry sorry; sometimes the human race makes me want to vomit.

[maevele.livejournal.com]

but yer cure, regardless of gender.

yeah, I mentioned that i forget things ecause of my meds, and now they've tagged the post "forgotshewasfemale" and something about a half empty vagina?

and these are grownups

[haddayr.livejournal.com]

Smug cisgendered bitches. How nice for them that they've never been confused or undefined about anything.

I suppose when you're very stupid, you don't get as easily confused because you don't have that much to keep track of or define.

{dons bullseye}

[lantry.livejournal.com]

I'm the craziest and ugliest person you know, and if anyone should be a lightning rod for personal attacks, it ought to be me, or so I would have anyone stalking your journal believe. It could be funny.

Re: {dons bullseye}

[maevele.livejournal.com]

but that's okay, since you're a guy, so you don't have to be purty. and to my knowledge you haven't got gender ambiguity, which is apparently the really funny part.

Re: {dons bullseye}

[lantry.livejournal.com]

Actually, I do in fact have gender ambiguity. I just don't make a point of talking about it, since I consider gender generally irrelevant. I Identify as male in the same way I identify as mammalian. beyond that nothing. The reason I chose my wife over a very male friend of mine was because I didn't think my relationship with her was going to last, so I should get through that and he'd still be around.

And since when do guys not have to be purty? I seem to remember the fact that I wasn't considered purty a major stopping point in my youth.

Re: {dons bullseye}

[maevele.livejournal.com]

but not adhering to beauty standards isn't policed among predominantly male social groups the way it is in female social groups. Men won't attack another man for not following the rules looks wise as intensely as women will, just because there's less social pressure to make yourself beautiful in male peers.


See, i identify as mammal more than i do as female, though. because there's no significant part of me that wants to be non-mammal, or reptile, but there ARE parts that want to be non-female, or specifically male.

[stoneself.livejournal.com]

so... where do these parents stand on bullying?

i'm going to guess they think it's ok.

[maevele.livejournal.com]

eh, they're protective of kids as a whole, so bullying is only okay among grownups. That's how their whole mean rep started, because they'll rip people who aren't doing right by kids to shreds, but then the ripping expanded to people doing anything judgeable.

[stoneself.livejournal.com]

so they of the "do as i say, not as i do" crowd.

here's something judgable - children learn behaviors modeled by their parents.

[maevele.livejournal.com]

Oh, they're all perfect* in real lives, they're just mean as hell on the internet.


just ask 'em. til one of them admits she isn't, then they all jump on her for entertainment for a couple days. but there are a couple dozen darn good people there, maybe more, it's just a dozen perfect and vicious people, and a bunch who play along are there too.

[stoneself.livejournal.com]

are any of their glass houses still standing?

[maevele.livejournal.com]

Well, given that they've pretty much all taken the brunt of the attacks when they get pissed at each other, no.

[randomposting.livejournal.com]

*hugs*