crackheads

[maevele]

My husbands cousin, the one he was raised with, is using again. has been since like september, apparently, has moved out on the wife and kid, spending thousands a week, running his painting business into the ground, and the family is concerned he's gonna die before realizing he needs to quit. So family is flying in from all over the country to do an intervention sunday morning down in milwaukee.

And I'm hoping for the best, I really am, and I get that they have to do something, and I'm not going to say it's hopeless, but it's crack. And I am just cynical enough about crack after spending my early teen years watching my stepsister get thrown into rehab again and again and consistently using again the first chance she got, that I feel like we may as well skip the intervention and get straight to mourning. He's grown. We can't force him into treatment. He already knows he's losing his family and his business due to his crack, and that isn't making him go in to treatment, so I don't see how having all his relations tell him the consequences of his use is gonna do a damn thing.

But I'm not saying any of this to my husband. I'm keeping my mouth shut, and throwing the holiday party we have planned for sunday night without his help, because he needs to deal with this. I can't cancel, but I feel pretty weird about throwing a wii party while he's down there trying to save his cousin, and he's going to come home from that to a house full of people, most of them under 8, when I think he'd really need some time alone.

But, to be really honest, CRACKHEADS PISS ME OFF. My stepsister fucked up everything with crack, everyone I've ever known who was a crackhead ruined everyone around them, and that's what dude s doing too.

Comments

[ladyjax.livejournal.com]

No, you have every right to be pissed off about the crackhead cousin. I have a former crackhead ex-lover. Every time she calls my house to try and reconnect, I tell my partner about it and then I stew as I remember the hellish weekend of dealing with my ex, doing an intervention in my living room, trying to get her ass into treatment, having to take her remaining dog and have it placed with a friend and taking in her birds.

It still pisses me off and that was over five years ago.

[tupelo-lights.livejournal.com]

You might suggest Al-anon to your husband and his family. They're helping out of love and an obligation to try even when the individual has given up, which are values I stand by in most situations. But the slippery slope into enabling or driving yourself crazy because the person you love won't change... well, there's a reason there's a whole 12-step program for that. Best wishes.