care and feeding meme

1. How can I tell if you're angry?

You might not. with people I don't know too well, I will cover anger with a frightening calm.

2. How should I behave around you if you're angry?

by not telling me there is no reason to be angry

3. How do you want me to behave when you are hurting emotionally? How is it best to comfort you?

commiserate or distract. distract is usually good.

4. Are there things we should not discuss?

not that I can think of


5. How should I treat you when you are ill?

soup and vids

6. What makes you happy that's in my power to grant you?


comments. comments comments comments. also vid recs

7. How would you like us to recognise your birthday?

A big karaoke party. or cake


8. Are there any standing categories of presents that would be appropriate or unwelcome?

I'm weird about stuff, in that there aren't categories of things that will always be good or bad gifts for me. Things that make you think of me will make me smile


9. Are there times of the year that are difficult for you? Please explain if you are comfortable.

winter is hard.

10. Are there important anniversaries in your life?

wedding anniversary in january

11. How do I cater for you if you are visiting me?

coffee. vids.


12. If I want to contact you, how should I do it?

through my journal, email or PM. I'm less good with the phone, but like it okay for making plans to do things, not just for shit talking. I'm trying to remember to start my IM client more often, and I am Maevele on whatever service I am using.

little things

1: what should I fucking do with my hair. I don't want to cut off the length up front, but it is boring me right now. I have blonde and red chemical dyes, and some weak ass purple dye that might work over the blond. I was thinking about just splashing some blond streaks into it and then seeing how the purple takes on it. I really want hair like tommy ratcliff.

2: serious question. Would you rather do work you love 55 hours a week and have no real free time, or do work you do not enjoy for 40 hours a week and having those 15 hours to do whatever you do like in? Assume the wage works out the same, that it takes 55 hours at job you love to make the money that mediocre no fun job would give you in 40. And by "love" I mean come home excitedly talking about this cool thing that plays into your interests that you got to do today, and really feeling you are the fucking best at what you do.

and by "not enjoy" I mean it is one of those just a job jobs

3, and my biggest ragiest, the fucking landlord for this place we wanted, just called to tell me he's giving the place to someone else, and when I asked why, he said it was because I don't work, and the other applicant had multiple working adults. We had the first application in, and we qualified, our references came up great, he just picked the other people because I am "unemployed" so he wasn't sure that if Z lost his job we could pay rent. We have fucking unemployment insurance, or fuck's sake, so if Z lost his job dude would still get paid. This time I am sure that being a stay at home parent is being held against me. wtf. I am literally angry with rage